Wicked pleasure for the day :)

What is the deal with girls and the eternal fascination for so called bad boys? Now, I do think I need to define bad boys here. I am talking about the complete antithesis of the good guys out there. These are guys who believe on living on the edge, these are guy who do not believe in commitment, even if they do they definitely show no indications of it, these are guys who thrive on being non conformists and these are guys you definitely have to think about before introducing to parents.

Look around you, they are everywhere. It could be that long hair-d fella in your college who wears a leather jacket or it could be that utterly charming guy with an impeccable fashion sense at your work.

Although, I don't think they stay that way for life, I really do not think so. I think that stage is contained by the time they hit 28 or so, definitely by 30 :)

But thats enough time for plenty a hearts to be broken isn't it ?

I am sure if you are a gal reading this, there is definitely one person that you can think of from the past (or not) who fits that bill. It could be that senior in school who would be caught smoking by the principal. It could be that guy in college who sang like Bon Jovi but whose attendance was probably in single digits :) That guy at work who would be the DJ everytime there was an office party but not someone you would go to if you had an ethical issue to be resolved at work.

Rings a bell? Doesn't? Now lets try something else then :)

What about that guy who always paid you a lot of compliments till you realized that he also flooded your best friends' inbox with compliments. Or the guy who always seemed to know how to resolve every single bug but always came to work on mondays with a killer hangover. Or the guy who was just so much fun that it was almost scary to think how it would be if not for him.

Or what about all those guys who were such great guys to hang around with, absolutely wonderful as boyfriends but completely disinterested in declaring themselves as that.

Come on, don't tell me did not ring a bell at all. :)

Although not every single girl is fascinated by such guys. But unfortunately, a lot of us are :)

What is it about them ? Is it about the difference in personality that you share with him that seems so exciting? Or is just about a good time?

I think more often than not, its a mix of both. Despite all the bad, they do have that knack of bringing out the fun you even if you believed that there is no such thing as a fun you :) The plans are impulsive, the days are impromptu, its all about living in that moment. I think Fun being the motto of the time, anything non fun is just not tolerated. Whether its chiding from your best friend or even your mother or just about everybody around you.

I am sure if you strand a gal in a room(or an island) with a nice guy and a grungy looking guy, the odds are she will end up talking to the grungy guy strumming his guitar ,who reminds her of Saif ali khan :P, Even if he has absolutely nothing sensible to say.

And you can't help it, there are guys are just.. umm sexier !!

I guess its the same stereotype as men fascinated by blondes :)

You gut will tell you nothing good can come out of this (so will everybody around you), everything about him will scream unstable ? But will you listen?

No, I don't think so. Partially because you don't want to care, partially because in your hearts you sincerely believe that he will change, change for you and change because of you. You poor soul ! :)

There is no doubt that you will have a good time for a while. Thats what draws you in any case. But you do realize your mistake after a while. (while = months and years). At least we hope you do.

And I guess eventually these guys grow up too :)

But the sad part of this is that the so called nice guys lose out. All those nice guys you didn't even give a second look to. They are always the ones who take you out for dinner (or jhal muri) when that moron you are seeing does not show up. They are always the shoulders to cry on but never the shoulders you chose. I should actually write a separate ode to all these nice guys out there :) You can only hope and pray that you will end up chosing a nice guy someday. Sadly though and its true, the nice guys will always be short changed when it comes to evoking that passion or zeal like the bad boys.

Also, and this is important, the damage to your psyche by the time you realize what a waste of time that guy was. This is really excruciating because it could have long term effects including low self esteem, extreme cynicism, complete distrust or even commitment phobia on your part . Shudder!!!

Thankfully at least some of us are sensible.

ps: This is not a feminist-ic post, I am sure there are enough and more specimens of such in the opp sex too.