ex and the City ?

For some vague reason, Sex and the City continues to get bouquets and brickbats from one and all :-) We all love Carrie for reasons of our own. Maybe coz of things she does that we always wanted to but never did or even because her thoughts echo the thoughts of the bold an brazen of this century.
2 of my favourite quotes from the much talked about series.

Carrie: Maybe our mistakes are what make our fate. Without them, what would shape our lives? Perhaps if we never veered off course, we wouldn't fall in love, or have babies, or be who we are. After all, seasons change. So do cities. People come into your life and people go. But it's comforting to know the ones you love are always in your heart. And if you're very lucky, a plane ride away.
Carrie: Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous

I have seen just about all the seasons except the latest 6th season, hope to catch that sometime soon.
There are things that I like about Carrie and there are things that my old fashioned heart disagrees with completely. I can never accept cheating on Aidan because he seems too comforting and Big seems to tantalizing.
But then again, I wonder if its really that far fetched.

One episode which sticks out in my memory for weird reasons in the one in which she tries to be friends with Big because, well, you know, maybe ex's should somehow migrate to being friends sometime. But Big takes the friendship a little too seriously and tells her that he has just got engaged to (the Stick) Natasha.
I wonder which is worse ? Knowing that your ex has a new girlfrnd (and got this one just about 4 months since you last saw him) or that this time he is being a perfect boy friend to someone doing all the things he never did for you. At some level, its an ego blow. Like Carrie, I think it’s the eternal question of why wasn't it me ? Why wasn't it me whom you wanted to commit to ? Why wasn't it me who brought out the newly acquired responsible guy in you? None of this somehow is linked with the fact that you don't want to really get back with him. In fact for all practical purposes, you have no feelings even remotely resembling love for him. But it’s a lingering series of questions because as I said, soemwhere there is hurt and an ego blow. I don't know which one is worse actually. Maybe the hurt gets better with time but the ego blow stays for longer.